Whenever my dad comes to visit and see’s all the things we deal with on a normal, everyday basis, he will remark how our household would make a great reality show. It would be much better than Jersey Shore, I’m sure, and probably a lot more culturally edifying–at least Deaf Culturally edifying. You could probably learn a lot about how to handle broken glass and the many uses outside of Christmas for string lights. You would probably learn a lot more ASL than either my children, my brothers or my nephews. You might not need to use it as badly, but you’d be welcomed to visit.
Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.” –Dune
When I decided to go back to school I was fairly certain it was the right decision. But after a few weeks of thinking about it, I became almost paralyzed with fear. What if I couldn’t do it? How could I compete with other hearing and sighted individuals? And the most disturbing fear of all was this: What if I’m not actually as smart as I think I am? What if I have vastly overestimated my own intellectual prowess?
Well, after two full semesters at Houston Community College I can now confidently say that yeah, I can do this. I have to rely on someone to caption the lectures in real time, I miss most of the visual aids like blackboard, movies, and overhead projectors. And I still managed to outperform most (and sometimes all) of the other students in my class. The point isn’t that I am awesome, although I clearly am. The point is that fear can cripple your chances of success more than being physically crippled. Don’t let fear rule your life or ruin your life. Don’t just dream it, dare to make it a reality.
As promised, the short story : Promises of the Dying — is now available on Kindle! Purchase your copy now!
And don’t forget to read: Earth Goods — too while you are at it.
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Mine: “You locked me out of the room again. I know it was an accident, but I pounded on the door for five minutes before giving up and sleeping on the couch. I didn’t want to pound on the window, last time I did that when you locked me out, I broke it. Remember?”
His: “You’re going to blog about this, aren’t you?”
A big thank you to Lipreading Mom for nominating my blog for the One Lovely Blog Award!
There are five guidelines for accepting this award:
1. Link back to the blogger who nominated you.
2. Paste the award image on your blog, anywhere.
3. Tell them seven facts about yourself.
4. Nominate 15 other bloggers for this award.
5. Contact the bloggers that you have chosen to let them know that they have been nominated.
Seven facts about me:
1. I am a published non fiction writer dying to break out and into being a fiction author.
2. I don’t watch tv. If I watch a series it’s usually old and on Netflix.
3. I’ve always been a good Mormon girl.
4. I visited ireland a decade ago through the kindness of a friend, the love of her husband for her and a touch of providence. I had been studying it as a layman american of irish decent for years and want to return to Ireland so bad it hurts.
5. I think my writing has improved four fold over the last ten years and none of it due to any higher learning institute.
6. My father is a surveyor. I had to work for him growing up. I swore I would never be a surveyor. I’m still not a surveyor.
7. I swear it is my lot in life to always be the second in command who has to lead because the commander is incapable. I’d like to actually be commander, but it’s clear god doesn’t think I should be.
The next part of the award is nominating 15 other bloggers:
15. The London Flower Lover – Since my visit to Europe over 10 years ago in spring, my appreciation for European Flora has increased and this site keeps it alive.
14. Diedra Alexander – what can I say? I like people that like me.
13. Topicless Bar – I’m not sure you could call this a “lovely” blog, but if eclectic is your thing, this is it.
12. Cute Overload – There is nothing more lovely than cute critters.
11. Jill of All Trades (expert of none) – anyone that can understand when one needs to be serious and when one shouldn’t be, is lovely to me!
10. Neither Here Nor There – I picked this blog because he regularly posts beautiful videos.
9. Fabulous Realms – Hardly even need to list a reason here, the name says it. I love myth and fantasy.
8. Clotid Jam Cracker – I read it for the pictures 🙂
7. Supermom Plus – Because being a mom is lovely = being a supermom is really lovely, but being a mom I can relate to is even better.
6. Silent World Seniors – I just so relate to them… in a hearing way.
5. Adventures of a Deaf Adult – she’s already been nominated by someone else, but that doesn’t mean I can’t do it again, right?
4. Feminist Mormon Housewives – I think this kind of feminism is lovely.
3. Gardening – Livejournal is teh suck, but this is a great community blog.
2. I Can Haz Cheezeburger? – This site saves the sanity of all the politically weary, so it is definitely lovely. I consider it a photo blog of happiness.
1. The Middlest Sister – I love paper art, especially like thist, so this is my #1 draft pick for Loveliest Blog.
Sorry it’s been so long between posts, but my baby brother and his family moved into our livingroom rather suddenly two weeks ago. My brother had never met my husband, so he and his family had no idea what they would need to do as they recovered in our livingroom from their (latest) trauma.
My brother has a son, my nephew, who is a one year-old. He is a toddler and having a toddler around a blind man is… complicated. My husband started using his cane full time, even inside the house, which was not something he was used to either (and sometimes he forgets it). My brother and his (common law) wife had to be told where you could put or leave things and where you couldn’t, and that everything had to be put in the same place it was before if my husband put it there. Things have to remain organized. Follow the laundry schedule. Pay attention to the walking areas and remove any obstacles (including toddlers). It’s not really all that complicated, but it’s a long list of ‘rules’ for a guy (my baby brother) that takes joy in breaking rules.
People often complain that God makes too many rules. The goody-two-shoes (so they are called) try to explain this this is for your own good. It keeps you safe. It makes your life stable and livable. Well… in this case, in our house, it’s for someone elses’ good. The fact that it is his home is secondary. The fact that all of us love him and will kick your scrawny ass back to whatever state you came from if you do anything on purpose to hurt him is primary.
We try to live a nice, stable life because it is best for us. If you live with us, you have to try to live a nice, stable life too. It really IS better for you, you know. You could learn a lot of discipline in the way disabled people are, by nature of their disability, forced to live their lives. You are welcome for the free lessons in living a better life. Hope you apply them in your next home.